If you do not get along with your boss, it can seem like your life is a living hell. Even if you and your boss goes separate ways, what happened before that might still hunt you.
To constantly be the target for someones disapproval can make the strongest mind brake. To have someone point out your flaws all the time instead of seeing and appreciating your efforts can have you doubt your own capabilities. If you start doubting, thinking about yourself as "worthless" its time for you to move on.
You were hired for a reason, and that reason was not to be someones punching bag. I want you to know that you are not alone. Sadly its more common than you think. Stress causes illness, if its bad enough sometimes even death by suicide. Horrible but never the less a reality.
People can only hurt you if you let them. Why should anyone be allowed to hurt you, most of the time its not even about you.
If you feel that your job drain you and your staying simply because your afraid of what will happen once you walk out that door, then think twice. There are options and solutions to almost everything. If you have read this far, then you are looking for one right now.
Take a step back and look at your life. Is this what you want, or do you want something else. I guess you like me, want to wake up in the morning with a smile on your face, feeling that what you do means something.
Things happens for a reason.
Some people I meet says its to late for them, they are to old, or soon to be retired and don't want the fuss that comes with learning a new skill or to start their own business. In their head life is more or less over and the lot they were given is all there is. Financial responsibilities can also scare one from taking the step out of a bad and stressful situation.
A lot of people have skills and experiences that others would pay them to to teach.
Answer those questions:
1. If you could do whatever you wanted right this moment, what would you do?
2. Are you living your dream?
4. Where do you see yourself 3 years from now?
5. What if today was the last day of your life, how would you spend it?
Five questions witch answers I hope will lead to a better, brighter and happier future for you.
To start living your life without your ex-boss.
Even if its not easy you should forgive and forget. Why?, your not really living when you hold a grudge. The sooner you can let go of your negative feelings associated with your ex-boss the better things in life will go for you.
Defeat your enemy with kindness.
The world is only so big, so the chance of you running in to your former boss do exist. Make sure you and your ex-(pain in the ...)boss end things in friendship. Send a mail with a thank you for the experience of having the chance to work for him/her. (If nothing else it thought you what you don't want for yourself in life). Send with it your contact information, even if you never get a response you raised above the treatment you got. Consider yourself the winner.
One more thing. Nothing good will ever spring from you talking bad about your ex-boss. Your finally out of there. Its all about you from now on. If your not your own boss next, communicate with the new one to build a good relationship from the start. Things can only get better from here.